Regret is probably the worst emotion we can ever expect to feel, and yet it’s more common than mosquitos at a barbecue. That’s because life is full of choices, decision-points and forks in the road and, given there is no instruction manual or a magic mirror that can tell us what the future beholds, we’re bound to make as many mistakes as good decisions. We could all make a book out of the situations we wish we could go back and change or delete. It’s just part of life.
But despite this, we’re big believers of not regretting anything. Now, we know this sounds like a total pipedream, but it is totally possible to live life like this, it’s just a matter of knowing how:
1. Decisions Are What Give Us Power
Nothing would get done if every decision was made through thoughtful consideration. Not only that, but a lot of decisions don’t allow this. In fact, almost every decision in life has to be made on impulse. It has to. There isn’t time for anything else. As such, every decision you’ve ever made was based on a combination of gut-feeling and knowing what you wanted in that moment. If it wasn’t, well, you wouldn’t have made the decision you did.
2. From Mistakes Come Self-Forgiveness
One of the most important skills anyone can ever hope to learn is the skill of self-forgiveness. How often have you been told you are your own harshest critic, or that you need to cut yourself some slack? Exactly. But what you will find is, before you were able to move on, you had to forgive yourself first. It could be that you were too relaxed with credit cards as a twenty-something or could be that you left your daughter’s favourite teddy at a restaurant. Life is full of imperfect choices, but that’s part of being human. Accept it, forgive yourself and move on.
3. You Learn How To Solve Issues
No one ever solved anything by simply dwelling on it and swaddling themselves in self-pity. That’s a surefire way to see a mistake escalate. Instead, what you need to realise is, for every problem, there is a solution; it’s just a matter of finding it. If you have twelve credit cards mounting up against you, then it could be time to look into debt consolidation. If you fell out with a good friend because of a difference in opinion, it could be time to show some sympathy and understanding and extend an olive branch. Whatever it is, try and be proactive about finding a solution instead of accepting defeat.
4. A Better Perspective Rises Up
This may be an ugly way to get to where you want to be but, a lot of the time, it’s impossible to know exactly what you want from life until you have experienced exactly what it is you don’t want. For example, it could take being suffocated by debt to know you never want to owe money ever again and teach your kids that too. It is this idea that, with every decision you make, you will get hit by a consequence; it is then up to you to decide how these consequences motivate you from that day forward. Our advice: use them as jumping off points for a better life. There’s nothing to regret about that.
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